Task Master
Busy moms do it out of necessity. Drivers do it at 60 mph. And teenagers do it better than anybody.
Multitasking. No longer mere computer lingo, the word now describes life as we know it. Noshing on a burger while steering a car through traffic while fumbling with directions.
Gone are the days of one task at a time. Now we do everything simultaneously. Work. Play. Eat. Travel. We feel so efficient, so on top of things. Look, Ma … no hands!
But when one of those multiple tasks includes a human being, we may be missing what matters most: an eye-to-eye and heart-to-heart connection.
I watched a young mother at the post office sort through her mail, talk on her cell phone, and try to keep tabs on her toddler. Nothing too dangerous there. Except she tossed out a letter, only to realize she meant to keep it, called out to her wayward little girl without really getting her attention, and apologized numerous times into her phone, "Sorry … what did you say?"
The child was clearly frustrated. No doubt the caller on the other end of the line was, too. Both of them received the same unintentional message: "You're third on my list of priorities right now."
Do we really have to do three things at once to feel productive?
Apparently we do, and I'm the worst of sinners.
While on the phone with a long-winded friend, I open my e-mail, turning down the computer speakers so she won't hear the telltale sound effects, even as I wave a sheet of fast-food coupons at my husband, pointing to what I want for lunch.
Or I'll take a stack of correspondence into our family room and tune in a movie I've been eager to see. Distracted by the film, I have to read each letter twice, not really connecting with the dear person who's written to me, nor fully involved with the story on the screen. When a family member joins me and starts to chat, I catch myself scribbling words that make little sense, trying to follow the movie out of the corner of my eye and only half-listening, half-nodding to whatever my loved one is saying.
Is there any hope for a multitasking mama?
Yup. A simple one: Follow the Lord's example.
When Jesus spoke with people, they had his complete attention. The Bible does not say, "And while he sanded wood and kept watch on a pot of stew, Jesus said … " He simply listened, then responded. Individually and compassionately.
In Jesus' meeting with the woman at the well—his longest one-on-one conversation ever recorded in Scripture—she was amazed a Jew was even willing to speak to a Samaritan: "How can you ask me for a drink?" (John 4:9). The disciples were taken aback, too, when they "returned and were surprised to find him talking with a woman" (John 4:27).
Clearly Jesus put conversations first on his to-do list, ignoring what was politically correct or productively expedient. Nothing mattered more than this thirsty woman.
Originally published in: Today's Christian Woman, 2005, January/February, Vol. 27, Issue 1, Page 64
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Elenita Arms
I have spent most of my life on the receiving end of what the article states. I can't impress enough upon the readers to really hear what is being said. There is simply nothing like someone who can if at best give you just 5 minutes of their time if that is all there is at the moment. I always ask before I begin talking, if now is a good time as it is important to remember the other person too! Not sure if all the stars will show up but I wanted to choose them all!
Elizabeth Ortiz
I agree -- often times we busy ourselves with everyday tasks that at the moment seem so important that we miss out on the very much needed personal moments. The responsibilities of work, home, family are often overwhelming and it is easy to lose site of how much our personal relationship with God and others is affected. I almost lost some very precious and valuable friends because of this. Let's not just make this a New Year's Resolution but a prayer for direction and awareness. Great article.
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