The Rise of Raunch
Recently my sister bought me a gift certificate to a popular lingerie store. As I picked out a bra there, a girl no older than 15 walked in with six guys ranging in age from roughly 14 to 18. The boys—their laughter awkward, edgy—nudged the girl toward a rack of revealing lingerie and took turns picking out several sheer, barely-there outfits for her to try on. As they placed the outfits in the girl's arms, her face looked young and vulnerable. But as I tried to catch her eye, the boys veered her toward the changing area.
I saw her feet as she dropped her jeans. A sales clerk stood near me, so I pointed to the boys lounging against her open dressing room door. "What are you going to do?" I asked.
"There's nothing I can do," she said. "This happens all the time."
As a woman and as a mom, I was appalled. I mentioned that the girl was underage, but the clerk shrugged her shoulders, turned away, and started folding underwear. I spotted the store manager across the room. She frowned as she studied the scene. I held up my hands as if to say, Do you see this?
She also turned away.
I walked over to the changing area and placed myself between the boys and the open door. "You have to leave," I said.
One boy leaned forward. I could feel his breath on my face. "Who's going to make me?"
"You're not my mom," another said, backing up his friend.
"You're right, I'm not your mom. But this is really wrong, and I'm not going to let it happen."
One guy busted through the tight circle and pushed close. "I'll see her later anyway," he said. "What's the big deal?"
"She's the big deal. I'm not going to let you do this," I said.
I could hear the girl pulling on her jeans. The guys turned and walked away. She cautiously slipped out of the dressing room and followed them. The store manager stood at a distance and stared at me—the woman who'd created a scene. I was so angry I wanted to cry.
Girls Going Wild
On a recent Oprah Winfrey Show, the popular host spent an entire hour discussing the "culture of raunch," the increasing vulgarity permeating our media, fashion, and celebrity culture. One of her guests was Ariel Levy, author of Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture. Levy, 30, prompted a national debate when she concluded in her book that by exploiting themselves, women have become, in essence, female chauvinists.
"Only 30 years ago, our mothers were supposedly burning their bras and picketing Playboy, and suddenly we were getting breast implants and wearing the bunny logo as symbols of our liberation," Levy wrote in a 2006 op-ed piece published in the Sydney Morning Herald. "How has the culture shifted so drastically in such a short time?"
That's a great question. Today's average 14 to 16 year old is familiar with sexual innuendo and with a woman's body being used to promote an image. She knows what oral sex and STDs are. Her celebrities—the Paris Hiltons, Britney Spears, and Lindsey Lohans—flash flesh and cash, and have sex with little or no consequences. On average, she watches 15 hours of television a week, following programs such as Desperate Housewives.
Originally published in: Today's Christian Woman, 2007, September/October, Vol. 29, Issue 5, Page 28
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Suzanne Eller
The mentoring program now has a blog, ladies. You can find out more at http://vision2011.wordpress.com. As I stated in the article, it's not a faith-based program, but truly a God thing and a joy to connect with girls in my home city, as well as to connect with women to make a difference in girls' lives.
Debra
I really enjoyed teh article and todayd we have to really pay attention to our owm behavior as well as dress for our upcoming women of tommorrrow! They learn look and feel through all of us . Some are wy more fortunate than others and I'm speaking for myself because I grew up without a mother for a role model .I thank God for the wonderful blessing of children that HE has allowes me to have and raise for HIS GLORY AND PURPOSE!!!I can do all things through CHRIST who stregthens me.I pray that we can unite on one accord on this topic and pul together and believer God that this will make our upcoming generation of females and males appreciate and respect each other like our LORD JESUS CHRIST would have us to do........ THANK YOU SO MUCH AND GOD BLESS
Andrea
I just want to say that this article was well needed. The young girls in this generation are hurting for some decent examples of God fearing women. Unfortunately if there aren't any examples at home it doesnt help. When we allow our kids to do whatever,wear whatever, go wherever and say whatever were not working in their best interest. I think a major movement of women standing up and mentoring and also mentoring the women is needed. Titus 2:3-4 is the example that is now needed. I pray for not perfect but again God fearing women to stand up and boldly pray for this change. We can do it if we trust and believe in God. The real question is do we truly believe and trust God?
God's Girl
Girls and women are exploited every day in the media. And so are the minds of boys; it us up to us to expose the un-airbrushed truth and talk to them about the damage of the raunch trends. Thank you for being brave enough to speak up and do something for the girl in the dressing room. She really is a haunting image of what all our daughters are facing each and every day.
Rob
Great article, it seems like a moving train, how do we stop it. I'm a father of two daughters not teens yet, but already society is attempting to recruit them for this cultural war. Self esteem seems to be the core, these girls and guys need to know who they are in Christ, to know how much He values them.
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