When Sex Hurts

Thousands of married women suffer from undiagnosed vaginismus—but there is hope.

Kate Cardwell

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January 17, 2008 2:31 PM

Carly

Hallelujah!! I started bawling reading this article, thinking, "thank you, Jesus - this has a name!" I have been suffering from what sounds like vaginismus for my entire 5 years of marriage. It has caused frustration, anger, confusion, and depression. I have been praying that God would "fulfill His promise" and now I have a glimmer of hope. Thank you SO much for this article!

August 01, 2007 9:55 PM

Suzanne

Sex is painful for me but not because of vaginismus. I was diagnosed with vestibulitis and vulvodynia 2 1/2 years ago. There is a lot of help for women with vaginismus, but not for women who have the type of pain that I have. I've had this for 23+ years of marriage. I don't know what it's like to enjoy sex/intimacy with my husband. I've tried every treatment. Nothing's worked. I've tried counseling. They're stumped, because they've never heard of my situation before. To say that God made sex pleasureable is a lie. Sex has done nothing but destroy my marriage. I'm sick and tired of hearing people expound on the joys of sex and how it's a gift from God. Find more women who have had the same situation I'm living with and have them write an article outlining how they were healed. I've yet to find a Christian book that solely deals with this. The most I see is a paragraph or two. If God made sex pleasureable, I would not be experiencing this. I would be enjoying my life with my husband.