Confessions of a Sex-Starved Single 
My friend Diane got married recently. Walking down the aisle, smiling big, she winked as she passed me. She was stepping into a new season of life—a husband, a new home, new responsibilities … sex. I chuckled at the thought of the "s" word. Diane and Bill hadn't even kissed yet. They wanted to wait until their wedding day. Hence, their dating intimacy had consisted of lingering handshakes, ...
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Anonymous
What a refreshing piece! I loved it! Thank you, Shae, for your honesty and for voicing what so many of us feel. I often disguard the advice that married people give to those of us who are single and over 30. I think to myself, as you did, that they are at least "getting it" and so their advice for me to be patient and wait is irrelevant. But I am finding that many of them are not "getting it" nearly as much as I think they are, and that they too have had to find the balance between sexual desire and the realities of marriage, relationship and honoring in the journey. My image is that they "do it" three times a day, but very few do and my exagerated picture of healthy sex is a bit off. There is a fine line between hormones and selfish lust, and though my body may cry for sexual fulfillment, I must always submit my desires to the God who knows me much better than I know myself. He knows all my need and fills me in the most beautiful and lasting ways. :-)
Jimm
What is so bad about having sex? I don't get it. I mean, don't go out and shag every bloke you meet, but seriously, come on. If you are in a serious, stable relationship, then what is the problem? Why live half a life? Is that what God wants?
Mick
Surely hope you don't mind if a man says a quick word, but God bless you for being open and honest; how refreshing! It's good to know that it's not just us guys who are single, divorced or widowers that struggle against sexual lust. I think being real about it and sharing your weaknesses helps others, and we can be strong in faith together to please God. May he speed your path to a beautiful marriage!
my secret
Thank you for your honesty! I have never had sex, but have failed in the past. I am in a wonderful relationship right now with an incredible man of God. We are doing ministry together, and have been for almost three years now, but we are not married. We have an amazingly close relationship. He is the definition of a Man of God..no lie! He's a bit of a goody goody...but He loves God so purely and genuinely. We have completely cut off physical aspects of our relationship, but because I have experienced a bit of it in the past, my hormones scream at me in the most awkward times. I feel so guilty for sexual failures... My fiance is so Godly...and has completely separated himself from that dark part of him. I'm struggling with feeling guilty not only letting God down, but him as well.
Ashley
Thank you for this article. I get so fed up sometimes with the typical Christian answers about sex... thank you for your honesty! I am a single 22 year old girl and have had far too many sexual experiences and have quite frankly lost respect and the sacredness of sex. This article spoke to me about what I am really craving-- affection, closeness, and affirmation. I wouldnt even say that I have a low self-esteem, as a matter of fact I would say I think I have a healthy self esteem, but something in me craves the attention of men- it's like every man I encounter I try to seduce, or make him want me. I just thought of it as a distraction, or out of boredom... but really, what is sex without love? It really is just a distraction without love. Empty. I know the answer isn't as simple as that, for me it is a constant battle, but thank you for bringing me back to the truth in this article.
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