Confessions of a Sex-Starved Single 
My friend Diane got married recently. Walking down the aisle, smiling big, she winked as she passed me. She was stepping into a new season of life—a husband, a new home, new responsibilities … sex. I chuckled at the thought of the "s" word. Diane and Bill hadn't even kissed yet. They wanted to wait until their wedding day. Hence, their dating intimacy had consisted of lingering handshakes, ...
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one world
There is nothing in the Mosaic law which states that premarital sex us a sin. Sins were defined by the law, NOT the gospels or the epistles. There is however a law which states that male "emission of semen" is IMPURITY or UNCLEANESS. The reason why sexual relationships fail, is because Satan fills the head of the man up with thoughts of why he should leave her and her head of thoughts of why she should leave him. In the end the two give up their love-making so that the man begins masturbating all over again.
Anonymous
What a refreshing piece! I loved it! Thank you, Shae, for your honesty and for voicing what so many of us feel. I often disguard the advice that married people give to those of us who are single and over 30. I think to myself, as you did, that they are at least "getting it" and so their advice for me to be patient and wait is irrelevant. But I am finding that many of them are not "getting it" nearly as much as I think they are, and that they too have had to find the balance between sexual desire and the realities of marriage, relationship and honoring in the journey. My image is that they "do it" three times a day, but very few do and my exagerated picture of healthy sex is a bit off. There is a fine line between hormones and selfish lust, and though my body may cry for sexual fulfillment, I must always submit my desires to the God who knows me much better than I know myself. He knows all my need and fills me in the most beautiful and lasting ways. :-)
Jimm
What is so bad about having sex? I don't get it. I mean, don't go out and shag every bloke you meet, but seriously, come on. If you are in a serious, stable relationship, then what is the problem? Why live half a life? Is that what God wants?
Mick
Surely hope you don't mind if a man says a quick word, but God bless you for being open and honest; how refreshing! It's good to know that it's not just us guys who are single, divorced or widowers that struggle against sexual lust. I think being real about it and sharing your weaknesses helps others, and we can be strong in faith together to please God. May he speed your path to a beautiful marriage!
my secret
Thank you for your honesty! I have never had sex, but have failed in the past. I am in a wonderful relationship right now with an incredible man of God. We are doing ministry together, and have been for almost three years now, but we are not married. We have an amazingly close relationship. He is the definition of a Man of God..no lie! He's a bit of a goody goody...but He loves God so purely and genuinely. We have completely cut off physical aspects of our relationship, but because I have experienced a bit of it in the past, my hormones scream at me in the most awkward times. I feel so guilty for sexual failures... My fiance is so Godly...and has completely separated himself from that dark part of him. I'm struggling with feeling guilty not only letting God down, but him as well.
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