Adult ADHD
For years, society thought only children suffered from Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD/ADD), which affects about 20 million Americans. However, studies now show that ADHD isn't something children necessarily outgrow. That means about 2 to 3 percent of adults are likely to suffer with ADHD's effects—and up to 50 percent of those adults are women.
The majority of these women have add—Attention Deficit Disorder without the hyperactivity—and are often misdiagnosed as depressed, since depression is one of its symptoms. They may feel as though they're spending all their energy combating a tendency to be disorganized; they struggle with feeling inadequate because they're constantly trying to keep life from caving in. Dr. Edward Hallowell, a psychiatrist who works with ADHD patients, compares the disorder to "driving in the rain with bad windshield wipers. Everything is smudged and blurred, and you're speeding along, and it's frustrating not being able to see very well."
Many sufferers don't think they have ADD because they believe high levels of stress and disorganization are the norm in our fast-paced culture. But those who have ADD suffer from constant, severe stress and disorganization. Such was the case for former schoolteacher Katherine Bond, who discovered she had ADD after attending a workshop on the disorder for the children she taught. Here's how she copes. —The Editors
It was 2 A.M., and report cards for my junior high English classes were due at 8. I still had 40 stories to evaluate in order to complete the grades. My young children were sleeping, but soon they'd be awake and need me. Why didn't you start sooner? I screamed at myself. But I had started sooner. I'd begun the stories a week ago, only to be sidetracked by lesson planning. Now I couldn't find the plans and would have to "wing" today's lesson.
I was a good teacher; I loved working with kids and always had a million creative ways of getting my lesson across. But the management involved in teaching—the record keeping, organizing, consistency—left me constantly anxious.
It wasn't until I heard a speaker at a faculty meeting speak on ADHD/ADD that I was alerted to its symptoms in adults. "They have seven different projects going at once," he said. "They struggle with organization. They tend to be impulsive and have trouble finishing things and being punctual." I sank in my chair. He was describing a day in my life!
For example, I'd put carrots on the stove and turn it on high so they'd cook quicker. While they were cooking, I'd start a cake batter, then decide it was time to call a friend about getting together the next day. I'd forget about the food and get involved in conversation. Then our cat would start meowing at me. As I'd feed her, phone cord still dangling from my ear, I'd hear the smoke alarm. Now why was that going off?
Originally published in: Today's Christian Woman, 2000, November/December, Vol. 22, Issue 6, Page 74
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cheryl
It is wonderful to read articles like this. I appreciate it. We do not have Add support groups around here, so I read what ever I can get my hands on. Thank you!
Pam
This article also describes me...Sadly it describes my husband and two of our three daughters as well! Sometimes I wonder how we'll survive this craziness.
Jess
Just the other day, a friend said that I might have ADD and since then I've been researching it. This article, and everything I've read, describes my life. All this time, I've been told I do these (or don't do them) because I lack character and self discipline. It is SUCH a relief to know that there's a reason for the things I do and it's not because I'm a bad person! Thanks so much for this article!
Tracy Hatton
I am so happy to read this.I am adhd and my oldest daughter at 22 is also. She was diagnost at 10,now I knew I had all the symptoms but addmitting is really difficult,my husband seems to always blame the things that donnot go right on my adha so it is something I am more ashamed of then anything,I will seek some prof. help Thanks so much for your actical it is amazing to read that someone else is day is alot like mine Example:You start out with your 100 item to do list at 5am you fall into bed at 11pm with 5 things completed on the list,it is a real battle. As the saying goes 1 day at a time .Tracy Hatton
Lori Jo Jamieson
This article changed (and saved) my life!!! Through the struggle of finding a diagnosing doctor - when I already knew what was wrong- I always felt that having ADD was not just a problem or "curse" - still life is quite tricky for me to this day. I wish more were written on the effects of this condition on the experience of faith - worship, prayer (it's so NOISY!) and focusing on God's will, but I'm still so thankful that I saw this article. Bless you, Lori Jo
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